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Phoebe Kirke
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Surprising Reasons for Relationship Anxiety and Why We Self-Sabotage

When a romantic relationship becomes the source of anxiety — Everything started so perfectly, but the old familiar doubts came out of nowhere. Suddenly it’s no longer possible to simply enjoy the attention because this thought keeps creeping into the back of your mind. Will this relationship turn into something great or end like many times before, before it really…

Love

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Surprising Reasons for Relationship Anxiety and Why We Self-Sabotage
Surprising Reasons for Relationship Anxiety and Why We Self-Sabotage
Love

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Hello, Love

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The Real Reason You’re Constantly Getting Rejected

And what you can do about it — And suddenly, it’s there again. The fear that you will be rejected by someone you’d like to get to know better, maybe even build a life together. Like so many times before, there’s a pit in your stomach. It’s this feeling you’re all too familiar with — you instinctively know…

Love

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The Real Reason You’re Constantly Getting Rejected
The Real Reason You’re Constantly Getting Rejected
Love

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The Secret Society

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Once A Cheater Always A Cheater

Stances on infidelity are very clear, but why? — You’ve definitively heard of the adage, once a cheater, always a cheater. It’s hard to find someone who doesn’t have an opinion on cheating. It’s unethical, and once infidelity finds its way into a romantic relationship, the relationship is likely to fail. Like many others, I consider cheating to be…

Love

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Once A Cheater Always A Cheater
Once A Cheater Always A Cheater
Love

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The Virago

·Apr 3

Why the “Crazy Ex” is a Myth

The sexist trope of the female mental state unpacked — Days after their breakup, my friend noticed that someone had been in his apartment. He found out that his ex had used the spare key he had given her while dating to enter his apartment without him knowing. Apparently, she had to make sure that the relationship was really over…

Dating

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Why the “Crazy Ex” is a Myth
Why the “Crazy Ex” is a Myth
Dating

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Beloved

·Mar 30

Does the Perfect Modern Couple Even Exist?

Why choosing imperfect love is much more rewarding — The thing is, we all feel like we’re not good enough — from time to time, at least. And I get it. I mean, the pressures of daily life and reality are real. We feel like we must succeed in our jobs and private lives. Which, obviously, includes love. There…

Love

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Does the Perfect Modern Couple Even Exist?
Does the Perfect Modern Couple Even Exist?
Love

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The Secret Society

·Mar 26

Are One-Night Stands Immoral?

An honest answer to a strange question. — You’ll lose yourself if you have one-night stands regularly. You can’t forge meaningful romantic connections if you decide to have sex too early. And you’ll self-loath yourself after having drunken, meaningless sex with someone you can’t remember their name. Therefore, one-night stands are immoral. Nothing good comes from them. I’ve…

Relationships

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Are One-Night Stands Immoral?
Are One-Night Stands Immoral?
Relationships

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The Secret Society

·Sep 29, 2022

5 Surprising Misconceptions About Romantic Love

You can make yourself fall out of love — Are you sure you know what romantic love is? Depending on who you ask, the answer might be completely different. Although romantic love isn’t exactly defined, it’s typically seen as an attraction and idealization that can lead to (or come from) a committed relationship. …

Love

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5 Surprising Misconceptions About Romantic Love
5 Surprising Misconceptions About Romantic Love
Love

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The Secret Society

·Sep 28, 2022

How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?

Why closeness and distance blur in a love relationship — Relationships without any form of intimacy cannot work. See, for most people, sex is an important means to stay connected and increase your and your partner’s overall relationship satisfaction. Why? Because relationships are built on shared experiences. Higher levels of sexual activity have been related to favorable effects such as…

Sex

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How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?
How Important Is Sex in a Relationship?
Sex

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Heart Affairs

·Updated Sep 25, 2022

My Love Life Is Great & Definitively Much Better Than Yours

Why we can’t refrain from judging other relationships? — Let’s face it. We all judge other people’s relationships — constantly. We compare ourselves with the couples around us and ask ourselves if we also do everything the way we should. Why don’t they go on vacation together? Why don’t they want children? Which, in many ways, is very weird. …

Couples

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My Love Life Is Great & Definitively Much Better Than Yours
My Love Life Is Great & Definitively Much Better Than Yours
Couples

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The Secret Society

·Sep 24, 2022

When Attraction Fades Within Seconds

Is it “the ick”, or are daters simply too picky? — And just like that, I was done. It took one action and a mere two seconds for me to completely tap out. Much to my horror and disappointment, all it took was two seconds to destroy any type of attraction. Needless to say, the brief romance came to a screeching…

Disgust

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When Attraction Fades Within Seconds
When Attraction Fades Within Seconds
Disgust

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Phoebe Kirke

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Feminist, activist, sister, but above all, hurt. Writing is my path to living life to the fullest.

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