Unlike other authors, I don’t look at my comment section. To be more precise, I avoid reading comments on my feminist pieces. I’ve written about male fragility, male ignorance, and how women have to deal with constantly proving their lived experience is valid. Unfortunately, the backlash I receive from writing these articles is… well, gobsmacking.

I’ve been called an overprivileged black woman, a brat, unhinged, and inexperienced by men who don’t know me but feel like they need to attack me. I believe it is vital for women to voice their frustrations without having to deal with the vengeance and…

Closure is overrated. And, it doesn’t involve another person. There are moments in life when we look for a logical conclusion, an explanation, or an apology to get the closure we need to move on with our lives. Many hold on to the idea that an apology from the person they were hurt by can heal them. Here’s why that is wrong.

While we have a “need for closure,” as coined by social psychologist Arie Kruglanski, there are self-destructive ways to go about it. When we seek closure, we are looking for ways to find answers that can alleviate confusion…

Unlike other people, I am convinced that friends with benefits (FWB) don’t work, not in the long term anyway. Although, admittedly, the concept of two people sharing a friendship and having occasional sex without being in a committed relationship has its appeal.

You can engage with each other, have a good time, and learn to communicate openly and honestly. That’s also where I see a big plus in FWB situations: When two people decide to do this, they always have to re-evaluate the situation and be very honest with each other. …

I’ve wasted a year of my life on a love addiction. It took much talking, text messages, and a handful of meltdowns before I finally realized that the person I was infatuated with was not feeling the same for me. Maybe he was feeling the same, but wasn’t ready for a relationship. Whatever the case may be, I had to realize that I had been stuck in a love fantasy for quite some time.

And that really hurt. It was devastating.

In retrospect, I wonder how I ended up in a state of limerence. Limerence is a state of mind…

I get it. Not all men are misogynists. However, that’s not why I concluded that dealing with white male ignorance is like talking to a goldfish. My conclusion, which has been in the making for many years and spans many different countries, observations, and conversations, derives from one simple truth.

Men have great difficulty owning their privilege.

My article points out how ignorant men shut down any meaningful conversation about gender equality by refusing to look in the mirror and acknowledging lived experiences of others. Unfortunately, it is not an isolated incident. …

Are you a Tinder profile guru?

Assuming you haven’t figured everything out (because that’s definitively the case for me), you might have asked yourself if you’ve added the right pictures to your profile. I certainly have. However, I was quite confident in my selection.

But much to my dismay, I was completely wrong. Why? Because what I thought men would like to see on my profile was not exactly what they truly wanted.

At least, according to one of my Tinder dates.

This shows that setting up a profile on any dating website or app can be quite daunting. What…

Who actually knows what it means to “not be ready for a relationship.” We’ve all heard it before from friends, and these words might have slipped out of our mouths as well. But, every now and then, we come to a point in our lives where we just aren’t sure. So we turn to the all-purpose one size fits all catchphrase we know best.

I’m not ready for love.

But what does this actually mean? Are we ever somehow ready, or do we just tell ourselves that we’re not ready as an excuse, so we don’t have to stress ourselves…

Let’s be honest. Not every attempt at dating is successful. It’s a common understanding that meeting someone new doesn’t necessarily translate into an official relationship. It’s just how it is, and most of the time, flirting, casually dating, and dating doesn’t lead anywhere.

And that’s perfectly fine.

On the flip side, however, these casual relationships have breakups too. And letting go of these is sometimes much harder than anticipated. Unfortunately, I had to realize that myself. Repeatedly.

It’s all about the right dating mindset

But why did it bother me that exciting men were leaving my life one after the other? We all know that dating is…